Rindu Ayah

Lama dah tak update, busy keje, busy sakit. Aku selalu nampak kental tapi sebenarnya aku macam nak try nak erase ker aper ker entah? or aku cuba lupa kan kesedihan, bukan tak sayang, entah takder jawapan. Aku rindu arwah ayah sebenarnya, menaip pun boleh nangis. Apatah lagi kalau orang cuba ajak berbual pasal ayah, benda yang aku try lari and avoid, mesti mengalir airmata. Kalau sakit walaupun tak jumpa doctor ayah ubatkan dulu, ayah yang buat solat hajat, semuanya ayah dulu. Allah sayang ayah, ayah dah dapat tempat dia terpilih di bulan yang sangat mulia, aku pun mahu seperti itu, aku rindu ayah sangat-sangat, aku masih memilih mahu menjadi anak yang mendengar pesan, aku masih memilih untuk tidak lukakan hati ibu. Al-Fatihah untuk arwah ayah

Should you send your child to daycare?

One article that i read this morning from thestar.com.my (Should-you-send-your-child-to-daycare), which i like to share with others working mother like me, i dont know for case like my daughter Alya, ya i saw she's a bit aggresive too and i dont know whether its genetic or elevated the stress hormon or else but the articles did mentioned the findings are mixed, i dont know. 

But like me. Ibu nak tolong abah ringankan beban abah and ibu kerja nak tolong mak and ibu, nak balas jasa mak dgn arwah ayah sekolahkan ibu tinggi-tinggi and ibu nak jadi orang yang berjaya and capai cita-cita ibu, sedih sebenarnya dari dulu kena tinggalkan anak di child care whole day and selalu she will be the last person, hati ibu mana lah yang tak sedih, and since she's baby sampai lah masuk kindergarden

I copy & paste the article here, sharing is caring hehe

There has been a great deal of research on daycare, but the findings are mixed. Some experts believe that children do just fine when placed in a high-quality daycare centre staffed by well-trained workers. In fact, they argue that kids from low-income backgrounds often receive more intellectual stimulation in a good daycare than they do at home, which may contribute to higher academic achievement once they enter school.

But other research has produced some very different findings, leading another group of analysts to draw contrasting conclusions. Certain studies, for instance, indicate that young children often suffer negative effects when they are separated from their mothers and placed in a daycare facility for many hours each week. Longitudinal research shows that kids who are placed in daycare beginning at an early age and for long periods of time each day may have behavioural problems when they enter kindergarten. There is evidence to suggest that these children are more likely to be disruptive in the classroom, aggressive with their peers, and disrespectful toward adults.

Still another body of research suggests that some children placed in daycare have elevated levels of the stress hormone cortisol in their bloodstream. Cortisol is the hormone that is present in the blood when we experience fear or anxiety. In some children, cortisol levels rise in direct proportion to the amount of time they spend each day at a daycare facility.

Focus on the Family takes the position that, whenever possible, women with young children should make every effort to put their kids first and their career second. As we understand it, the most reliable research indicates that very young children do best in every area of measurement when they are allowed to thrive under a mother's care at home. At the same time, we are keenly aware that circumstances don't always permit a mum to make this choice. A variety of factors may make her employment outside the home unavoidable. Financial pressures, marital disruptions, a disabled spouse - these are just some of the conditions that may force wives and mothers into the workplace. Such circumstances are regrettable, but sometimes they are realities with which we have to live. We are sensitive to the plight of both married and single moms who must work out of necessity, and we believe in supporting and encouraging them in this difficult task.

To return to the specifics of your case, you didn't mention why your husband wants to place your child in daycare. If he simply wants you to supplement the family income, we would challenge him to re-examine his priorities, especially if you aren't struggling financially at the present time. If his motive for having you go back to work is to provide the funding for a higher standard of living - in other words, to buy a bigger home or a nicer car - the two of you are going to have to sit down together and ask yourselves some tough questions. In the larger scheme of things, is affluence really more important than the well-being of your child?

Speaking of finances, it might be a good idea to “crunch the numbers” and see how your potential return to the workforce looks on paper. When you figure in the high cost of quality daycare, the possibility of a jump to a higher tax bracket, and the extra money you'll need to spend on gas, clothes and other work-related expenses, you may decide that the added income you expect to derive from a job will be minimal at best.

My Audience

Hik hik hik rasa malu lak, blog aku yang berusia 2 months nih dah ada followers and ada audience hik hik hik, terima kasih - terima kasih baca benda-benda merapu yang aku tulis dan dah gambar-gambar yang aku letak nih hehe, tapi kalau audience sony erricson 1% tuh aku aku sapa tuh hahaha (Che Wa)